The Man’s Charge in Leading the Home

How to Spank Your Wife

and Other Tips in Leading Her

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Use of the Warning

The effects of spanking and the effects of your overall leadership as a husband go hand in hand. This is perhaps nowhere more clear than in finding that warnings do immediate good to change her behavior. They don’t involve having to spank her, but only letting her know she will be spanked if her misdeedsContinue reading “Use of the Warning”

Consent in a Spanking Marriage

The subject of consent comes up immediately for nearly anyone if the subject is disciplining wives. We understand intuitively from our sense of fairness that consent in some form must be given. A spanking is something that most people do not desire. In the moment, they may in fact absolutely not want to experience it.Continue reading “Consent in a Spanking Marriage”

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  1. I do accept as true with all of the concepts you have presented
    in your post. They are very convincing and will definitely work.
    Still, the posts are too short for beginners. May just you please extend them a bit from next time?
    Thank you for the post.


    1. Thanks for visiting my site. I hope you find the articles helpful. As far as article length, I may have a few longer ones coming up. Some articles I like to keep short just because I don’t think it’s always necessary to get into all the details, and also because so much comes down to personal decision of how to practice wife spanking. There are not many hard and fast rules. I will think about if I need more added detail in the future though.


  2. Sir,
    I am a submissive wife for 25 yrs now, but my husband has only disciplined me once and it was because I sassed him. He took me across his knee and spanked me with my panties down. It did not last long like you say it needs to be done. But, he did get his point across, now he just looks at me if I start to get out of sorts with him. I feel their have been many times when I deserved to be put across his lap, I don’t know why he hasn’t disciplined me in over 23yrs. Does he not love me anymore? He has stopped having anything to do with me romantically for 10 yrs now, he won’t go to the doctor either. He doesn’t hold me or kiss me either except to say goodnight. I am starting to feel very insecure. Can you tell me what I should do without disrespecting my husband?

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  3. My husband and I were both seeking a traditional head of household type relationship when we were first dating/married. Now we are a couple years in and pretty quickly I lost respect for him because he doesn’t have any rules and definitely no punishment. I have again and again begged him to spank me but he doesn’t consistently do it. After reading your blog I talked to him about it again. It makes me lose respect when it feels like he’s not being consistent. This is a huge turn off for me and I have almost no sexual attraction if he won’t be the man of our house and keep me in my place. Any tips for me?


    1. Hello Rosa, Thanks for visiting and for sharing your situation. A lot of women are in a similar situation, wanting leadership and discipline, but finding their husbands don’t desire to. Be patient. It can take a while for a man to really wrap his head around the idea of clearly leading and disciplining his wife.

      As I always emphasize, the most important is for him to practice leadership in the home. Let applying discipline come second and later. His headship comes first. It is good for him to see the importance of leadership as well, and understand how it helps, not just in your behavior, but in setting good, productive rules in the home, as well as ethical standards.

      Also realize, even though you feel you lose respect for him, it is your job to respect your husband. That’s a job to do and not a feeling. Start training yourself in showing respect to him, showing him honor, and being obedient. It is furthermore your duty to share intimacy, even if you think his lack of leadership makes him less attractive. Do your job fully as a wife no matter what.

      If you’d like to contact me, I’d be happy to talk at more length. Just get me at my e-mail or the contact form. I think there are readers here who have gone through similar things who can give some advice too. God be with you.

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  4. I think I’ve wanted this type of marriage for a while. There are times that I know I’ve disrespected my husband not on purpose but it happens. Their are times we fight about it. Overall we are very close and connected. I just feel like this would help me grow as his wife and submit more. I grew up with seeing my Mom be the head of the household so I’ve learned some bad habits. I want to grow and take my role to another level and I do try and catch myself. The problem is how to introduce this concept to my husband without him thinking I’m crazy. Or turning him off. Thoughts how to approach this way of living to my husband?

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    1. Hello Honey, Thanks for visiting my discipline site. A lot of women are in a similar situation; feeling they need or want spanking to help learn submission, or to stop bad habits. There are ways to bring it up that would be helpful, but all will require some courage on your part.

      It can take time for a man to wrap his head around the idea, but I usually recommend starting with a good understanding of headship and submission, and THEN seeing how spanking fits in with correction. He may need to start with simply taking the command he really has, and setting some limits on your behavior.

      You can share your need to be spanked, or bring up the subject in an instance when you have behaved badly and he knows it. You can let him know you feel you should be punished for your behavior. Look for good material to show him too. Something that will help explain the subject, but won’t be too extreme or oddball. There’s a lot of bad stuff out there.

      I do have an article that deals with the wife introducing discipline here: https://spankingyourwife.wordpress.com/2020/05/16/asking-your-man-to-spank-you/

      You are also free to write me at my contact below or on the About page. I’d be happy to discuss it with your husband if he is willing.

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  5. My husband and I are just starting this needed journey. I served a dom for twenty years before I met my husband and need this security with my husband. I know he is not a forceful man but very manly. We are in the process of setting rules and starting maintenance. I am so anxious to have this with him. I know I will feel more love when he sets the rules and follow through with much needed spankings.

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    1. Congratulations on beginning your journey with your husband. I believe it will bring peace and fulfillment in your home. It does not require being a forceful man per se, but only being firm, and responsible as a leader. I hope he learns to lead you very well.


  6. Is it possible to add a “Recent Comments” box to the homepage? This would enable readers to keep up to date with each others’ insights.


  7. Fantastic website. Have you ever thought of perhaps implementing a personals section for like-minded people to meet? I have been searching for this type of relationship and unfortunately all of the sites that classify as “personal ads” are mostly for BDSM.


    1. Thank you Joe. That’s a good idea and you are not the first person to suggest this. While I don’t have the resources to have an actual singles section, I let people post in the comments if they are interested, and put their contacts there for meeting someone. In the coming few weeks I will do an article just on this subject, and will invite singles to comment below. But you can comment anywhere if you’d like.


      1. That’s great to hear! And until that post, I’ll leave my details here if that’s ok. I’m 41 and live in California. Firm believer in DD, have been my entire life. Looking for someone in the range of 30-45 but open to anyone/anywhere- I’ve found that DD is more important than location and age! If anyone would like to chat I use the email looking4DD@mail.com. Looking forward to it.

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