Spanking is not the only thing that needs to be firm when guiding your wife. Spanking is the first thing people think of, and it is the act that mostly makes up the punishment, but a husband’s guidance, both during a punishment and in daily instruction, needs to be both firm and clear. A weak command with your voice, and unclear instructions leave a woman wondering who is in charge. Even with a spanking present, she may not know your displeasure or the direction you desire her to go, if your words don’t express these important facets. Make sure your leadership and correction is managed strongly with the depth of your words.
If you are in charge she will know she cannot talk you out of it, or try to act like it was nothing. Do not relent if she tries to get out of her coming punishment. Recall the seriousness of her wrong as well. The fact she disappointed you or offended you should be very clear to her as she is bare before you being lectured. The harm and danger of her act should be on her mind. She should have heard your complete lack of acceptance of that behavior, and the fact she is well outside the line. The reason has been instilled on her soul, and the seriousness as well. She knows that when she’s bent over and being strapped.
That is not to say you should be yelling or out of control. Of course, the proper conduct while disciplining your wife, as with giving her instructions or verbal correction, is calm and in control. It can even express love and understanding for her situation. But the voice also expresses the wrong and is assertive. It does not leave her thinking it’s no big deal or that this deserves a mere slap on the wrist. It acts side by side with the spanking, to express your disappointment in her and to reassert what your rules are. It is clearly not one which will bend or be soft. It is the voice of her husband, and the voice of the law.
During your correction, a wife should feel you take no nonsense off of her, and you don’t. She should immediately get a sense of who is in control. You hold the reigns. If you hold them too lightly, or speak to gently and soft, she will not know who’s in charge. She will be more likely to argue, or to blow off the lesson. She may even try and reject it, either the discipline itself or the lesson that comes with it. If you are firm with your voice and clearly in control of the discipline session, she’ll know she won’t get out of it, and what she did is serious. She will respond more quickly as well. She knows that she earned what is coming, she needs to receive it, and she can take it despite any apprehension. She will even understand it does her no good to ignore her discipline and that learning from it is imperative. You lay these things on her soul by managing the session clearly and firmly.
Take charge of of the steps of her correction from start to finish. Tell her to undress. To get on her knees. Tell her what she “needs” to do, including learning from the correction. Tell her the position to get in, and immediately correct her if she gets out of it. During the spanking lecture her in a strong voice about her wrong, and about her expected behavior in the future. She should get a strong fatherly lecture as she gets strapped on her bottom. Do not take any backtalk or resistance during a spanking, but correct it as soon as you see it, and if it continues, punish her more. She will learn quickly she needs to submit, and submit fully. Being soft will not do that. Being firm and in control will, alongside a good hard spanking. Your clear management, tone of voice, and punishment help her to soften and submit. It will lay deeply upon her.
Even tenderness comes with strength. It is natural to show some amount of mercy if she has a hard time taking a correction. You may pause for a few moments. You may reaffirm your love for her. But this can’t amount to going soft, or being unclear about what you expect. It can’t amount to letting her think she shouldn’t be punished. It is simply to give her a chance to rest for a bit, or calm down if she needs to, and remind her she is deeply cared for. If you take some time for tenderness before the end of the session, make sure she understands you are still in charge, and that she needs to take her punishment. Keep her still in the position you desire her. Affirm why she is getting punished, and why it will be good for her. The pain is only for the moment, but she has to learn her lesson.
Firmness and clarity are important in daily guidance as well. If she doesn’t know what you expect, she won’t know what to do, and punishment won’t make much sense if she didn’t know your expectations. Let her know what she needs to do in command form. If a bad behavior warrants a spanking, tell her. If she is approaching getting one, warn her. Even verbal corrections for lesser wrongs need to be clear on the fact she needs to follow your rules, and needs to change her behavior. I always make sure my wife is showing proper respect during a verbal correction as well. She needs to be answering me with respect, not turning away, expressing regret for her wrong, and her better behavior in the future. If it is a longer and private time, she will need to kneel for verbal correction as well. She keeps her responding to you as her authority, and promptly correcting any errors. She does not forget to show respect.
Your voice is a tool, as I have said many times. It is equally important as a strap on her bottom in correction. In fact on a daily level it is more important, since it is the frequent and usual method she will hear. Don’t fail to use it rightly to command her. Be clear. Speak in imperatives. Manage your discipline sessions without signs of softness. She should know your displeasure with her wrong attitude or actions, and be told the direction she needs to go. You are in charge of each step in the discipline process, and she can sense that, and responds in kind. Your strength assures her softness. Being in charge helps her learn her lesson, and try less often to get out of it. It also helps her know the seriousness of her bad behavior. It places the reigns on her and takes her down the right path.
It is natural to end a session with getting close again, and with holding your wife. I believe this is good. Just know that closeness and kindness is not an excuse for wimpiness. You make sure she affirms that she is yours. She obeys you. You take looking after her very seriously, and you will correct her when she needs it. She is under your guidance and correction. There’s no reason that cannot come along with your expressions of love, and intimacy. The chance for intimacy after you spank her is also her opportunity to show you, in a big way, her new attitude. She will show you how good, respectful, and helpful she will be, through her body pleasuring you just as you desire. Serving you with her body is her first chance to show you what her behavior will be like. If you enjoy her body afterward, she should know you are in control, even if you want to express your tenderness as well. Your love and gentleness comes with power, which should be ever present as your correct your wife.