Taste of the Cane

Let me introduce another guest article by Mark, who is writing today about use of the cane in discipline. As with other guest articles, I’ve asked him to write on subjects I do not have hands-on experience with. I have never used the cane for discipline and he has. By all accounts of spanked wives, the cane is the harshest of instruments commonly used. It is fierce, its pain lasting, and its fleshy damage heavier than others. I don’t use it personally by the view that it borders closely on danger, but I do endorse its use if you can handle it properly. I hope you find this article helpful in understanding when and how to use the cane. Your wife will be penitent when she faces it.

I believe every husband should have an implement that he reserve for the most extreme situations;  in my house that implement is the cane.  I have only used the cane maybe 5 or 6 times over several years and each time it was for a different behavior.  I can assure you my wife has never repeated something she has been caned for.  

To be fair to my wife,  I will only share one example to demonstrate the severity of her offense.  About three years ago,  there was a case where a couple had died because of carbon monoxide poisoning.  It was very tragic and I asked my wife to purchase a new detector.  I reminded her a few times and she said she would. Still not seeing a new one,  she said she had purchased one and changed it already.  She knew I was annoyed and she was trying to avoid a spanking for negligence.  Instead when I found out she had lied,  she earned two spankings; one for negligence and one for dishonesty.  I decided to punish for the two together with a very hard spanking and caning.

A caning session begins very similarly to any spanking.  Once my wife admitted to lying,  I ordered her to strip and stand in the corner.  I was quite angry and left her in the corner for quite a while.  Once I had cooled down,  I put her over my knee and gave her a hard hand spanking until she was very pink. At this point in a session,  I usually switch to a paddle or more commonly a nice leather strap to finish the job.  Instead I positioned her the same way I would strap her and gave her 6 strokes of the cane.  She was pretty quiet other than sobbing. 

In between strokes,  I lectured her and made her answer several questions.  After the sixth stroke,  I sent her back to the corner.  Because the cane is so painful,  I use cornertime generously with it.  It gives her time to reflect,  feel shame and prepare for the next set of strokes.  I repeatedly gave her two more sets of 6 strokes with 15 minutes of cornertime between each.  This is DEFINITELY the maximum amount of strokes I would give,  no more than 20.  My wife was extremely sore for a solid day after this punishment.  

When I was 12,  my family moved to the UK for almost two years and I attended a boys school which was very strict.  I think I was caned at least a half dozen times for various reasons and I can assure you it was an extremely unpleasant experience.  Having said that,  if your wife commits an offense that you feel is very inappropriate,  the cane will teach her a very memorable lesson.

Think to yourself,  did anyone ever show you how to spank with your hand, paddle or even strap?  Of course not.  I pretty much learned how to apply the cane from experience.  The cane makes an unforgettable sound on the air before it strikes.  I would definitely start slow and then see what effect it has.  My wife has always been spanked pretty hard with my hand before her caning,  so I make the first few strokes relatively light and increase in intensity gradually.  The final six strokes are very hard and she will remember the lesson you are trying to teach.  After the last session,  I strongly recommend making her stand in the corner and display her behind to you.  She has sinned greatly and has paid for these sins and must show you what has happened to her very sore, red behind.  Expect many tears at this point for quite a while.  She will need time to process everything and to calm down.  The final cornertime is extremely important and should be fairly lengthy in time to accomplish all goals.  At the conclusion,  you may request an act of sexual submission.

Again,  I cannot caution you enough with the use of the cane.  Use it sparingly and effectively and you have taught your wife a lesson.  My wife has never repeated a behavior that I have caned her for and it’s been almost a year since her last caning.  I keep the cane hanging in our bedroom closet next to the umbrellas.  My wife sees it almost every day and I’m sure would love to sell it at a garage sale.  

Some husbands will try to provide comfort after a caning by applying lotion to their wife’s behind,  which is completely an individual decision.  I allow my wife to experience the burning feeling throughout her final cornertime where she has her hands on her head to prevent rubbing.   Before bed,  I will apply lotion and by then she has had plenty of time to experience the results of her actions.  
Caning Technique:
For obvious reasons,  a caning cannot be given over the knee.  Personally,  I have administered it two different ways and both were very effective.  I have had my wife bent over the edge of the couch with her behind slightly protruding.   I’ve also had her hold on to the chair I sit on when she’s been over my knee.  Both positions allow you full view of her behind and allow to strike exactly where you want the cane to land.   With just about any other spanking, I usually will strike the upper part of my wife’s thighs to make the spanking more painful and meaningful. whether I’m using a paddle, belt, hand or a strap.  I strongly do not recommend this for a caning.  Work solely on striking your wife’s behind.  For safety reasons you don’t want to venture beyond that.  She will be a nice shade of red and well marked with stripes,  just from working on her behind.

The beauty of the cane is it requires very little effort from us.  It’s quite light and even using only a quarter to half of a normal swat you will be providing your wife with a lesson to remembered.  My wife absolutely despised the cane and makes quite a bit of noise during her caning.   Uncontrollable sobbing and begging always occur, but don’t let them interfere with the correction.  She has earned the caning and must learn from it.  The same way you follow through with a paddling or strapping you must with the caning of your wife.  Aim at the behind only,  administer sharp, but light strokes and you’ll be doing her a favor. Reserve it for the most serious offenses and remind your wife of its availability at any time.  Some husbands require the wife to count strokes,  I don’t.  I do recommend a longer cornertime after a caning,  she will need the time to reflect and regain composure.  Because of the seriousness of her offense,  she needs to display her behind to you to feel remorse and shame.  This cornertime is intense and you must supervise your wife very closely to ensure she benefits from it.

In our house a hand spanking is a spanking given for breaking a rule and from there it progresses depending on the severity. My favorite implement is the definitely the strap, which is what I use the most. See what works best for you and what teaches your wife the most successfully. Just remember, make it a spanking she won’t want again!   

Published by aronhusband

I am a happily married man from the U.S. who's been blessed with five children. I write about marital discipline in a Christian home at my website spankingyourwife.wordpress.com. It contains articles on spanking in marriage, as well as advice on leading the home. I offer personal advice and mentorship in marriage to men or women who contact me. I long to see more and better marriages, in my country and the world.

25 thoughts on “Taste of the Cane

  1. We have a unique challenge in our relationship – I am a bikini model! So although my partner is very much the head of our household, for work reasons he cannot tan my behind too much as I wear skimpy briefs at work (always with his permission)

    There was one week where he was really mad and did spank me red and glowing! He jokingly shows me those modelling photos where you can see my red behind through the make up and spray tan!


    1. Hello Jenna, Thank you for visiting my website. I can see how that line of work would make being spanked very difficult. Your husband may have to rely on other forms of discipline which will not leave marks. However, I’d advise you to cease doing modeling which shows off your body, as we should be modest, and not encourage people to look at the flesh. Modesty is beautiful and womanly. The public only needs to see your good heart, as reflected through your face.


      1. Jenna It’s very sinful to dress like the way you say when anyone can see you. Bob only allowed me to wear bathing suits we got from a modest clothes place when we went to the beach.


  2. I’ve never used anything other than my hand,  my belt and a paddle and don’t think I would. However,  I’m tempted to buy a cane and hang it up as a deterrent!

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  3. The cane definitely imparts a lot of pain. I use the cane exclusively for disciplining my wife. Before anyone thinks I am a monster, let me make it clear that I deliver a different number of strokes for different levels of infractions. I use the stroke because: (1) It enables quick punishment as few strokes also transmit lots of pain; (2) because it inflicts a lot of pain in a small area, a new stroke imparts distinguishable pain even if multiple strokes have been delivered before and (3) it is easy to link magnitude of infraction to the number of strokes. I deliver 3,6, 12, 25, 50, or 100 strokes based on the magnitude of infractions.

    3 strokes are delivered over the fully clothed behind of my wife. 6 strokes are delivered over panties. 12 strokes are delivered over the bare bottom. 25 strokes are delivered fully nude and for 50 strokes, she is nude as well as tied to the four corners of the bed. I have never delivered 100 strokes but I guess I will keep my modus operandi the same as the 50-stroke punishments. I have well-defined rules and linked them to infractions. In the 8 years of my marriage, I have used the cane 100 times. I keep a record of all punishments. There have been 25 3-stroke punishments, 50 6-stroke punishments, 15 12-stroke punishments, 8 25-stroke punishments and 2 50-stroke punishments. Except for the 50-stroke punishments, all punishments are delivered to the bottom only in other punishments. For the 50-stroke punishments, around 10 strokes are delivered to the thighs.

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    1. I can appreciate this as I struggle with a high pain tolerance and am considering the cane a wonderful option for my husband and myself. I don’t want him to have to work harder, but I want the benefits of a good discipline. The cane seems like the right implement for us. Looking for the right one as we’re still learning. Thank you for your recommendations.


      1. Dear Sue,

        I would suggest the cane for any DD couple. It delivers a stern message in a few strokes and is effective over multiple layers of clothing. This makes it handy for an HoH wishing to quickly punish an infraction. It is also very effective in curbing long-term behavioral problems. I used the cane 50 times in first year of marriage, 30 times in the second and only 20 times in the remaining six years. Unfortunately, average strokes per punishment had to increase.

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    2. Thank you Caning Husband for your recommendations. When starting out with the cane how many strikes would you recommend for infractions like back talking or defiance? I’m working on these bad traits, but they are hard to stop as I’ve developed these over the years. Also you mentioned over clothing, so would caning ever be done on a nude body? Sorry for all the questions, but we’re still learning. Also, any recommendations on cane type would be appreciated. Thank you again!


      1. Dear Sue,

        The DD dynamics for every couple are different. Without knowing further details such as your age and your current DD environment, recommendations on strokes cannot be given. I recommend a rattan cane. Caning can be done on the nude body but, unlike most instruments, it is also effective over clothing. For me, humiliation is part of the punishment and hence I link the degree of undress to the magnitude of the infraction and punishment. Others may not have the same modus operandi.

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  4. La caña mi marido la utiliza en ocasiones especiales, de mayor gravedad del delito.
    Mis ruegos y mis lloros ya empiezan cuando veo que la tiene entre sus manos. Es muy doloroso el sentir la caña en mi culo desnudo, me hace saltar y perder la compostura lo cual hace que sus regaños aumenten lo mismo que aumentan algún que otro azote con la caña por ser más escandalosa.
    Después de acabar la paliza deberé, de rodillas, besar el implemento y las manos de mi amado esposo, en señal de gratitud y respeto, acto seguido me llevará a reflexionar a la esquina donde permaneceré ( llorando mucho aún) desnuda con brazos en la cabeza y entre mis nalgas sujetando la caña lo cual me humilla muchísimo. Pero tendré mucho cuidado de no aflojar la presión de mis nalgas para que no se me caiga, por la cuenta que me tiene.
    La última vez que recibí tal tratamiento fue por olvidarme de una cita médica.
    Mi marido es mi guía y mi mentor.

    [As translated online below] — Aron

    My husband uses the cane on special occasions, of greater gravity of the crime. My prayers and tears already begin when I see that he has it in his hands. It is very painful to feel the cane in my naked ass, it makes me jump and lose my composure which makes his scolding increase the same as they increase the occasional spanking with the cane for being more scandalous.

    After finishing the beating I must, on my knees, kiss the implement and the hands of my beloved husband, as a sign of gratitude and respect, then it will take me to reflect at the corner where I will remain (crying a lot still) naked with arms on my head and between my buttocks holding the cane which humiliates me a lot. But I will be very careful not to loosen the pressure on my buttocks so that I do not fall off, for the account you have me. The last time I received such treatment was for forgetting a doctor’s appointment. My husband is my guide and my mentor.


  5. We do have a cane, but to date it has never been used on me, my husband from the start of our marriage said it would only be used as a last resort should repeated bad behaviour warrant it or a serious offence was committed.
    I do however as a monthly ritual have to take out the cane and apply a coat of Linseed oil to it with a cloth, which helps me focus and is a constant reminder that it is there should it be needed.
    Just looking and handling the cane each month acts as a deterrent as I hope I never have to have it used on my bare bottom.
    To date my husband has used his hand, wooden backed hairbrush and a leather strap to punish me. The leather strap is a bad enough experience to endure so I can only imagine how the cane would feel should it be required.


  6. I have never used the cane it’s not an implement I feel comfortable using. I generally use a large strap and on occasion my belt when a correction was required when we were not home. I don’t hand spank except sometimes one or two swats on her behind over clothing as a quick reminder when she is heading in a bad direction in a social setting


  7. I have a light cane that I made from 2 strips of 8mm rattan material. It’s bound tightly with waxed dental floss about every 4 inches with an overall length of 32 inches and a leather wrist thong. This cane is very flexible and conforms to the curve of my wife’s bottom if applied. If used, it’s over the edge of the bed with her bent over and 2 pillows under her to make her bottom more prominent. With it being so light and flexible, it’s applied with a wrist snap and each stroke slightly apart from the preceding one. Six to ten good welts from it stay nice and bright for a couple of days. This is not an implement used often but the lesson it delivers is very clear from the sobs coming from her.


  8. In the Italian tradition or, rather, in the disciplinary tradition of Northern Italy, the cane does not exist; we are not in the Anglo-Saxon world. But a variant has always been used, and it is the hazel rod. I myself have used it several times with my wife, and although I have never used the cane (but I have seen videos) I intuit the difference. I believe the hazel rod is more suitable for the use of chastising serious misses than the cane because it is much thinner and more flexible. The blows, that is, create severe and intense pain, what is needed to discipline serious cases, but never create permanent damage. The effect is to imprint very sharp raised marks on the butt, but without penetrating deeply into the flesh. In other words: pain is administered in a suitable way, but without putting the body at any risk. The blows are delivered with a “rebound” technique that precisely makes the pain sharp but has an effect only on the epidermis. The ideal position is to bend the woman over the table, standing but bent over, so the buttocks are in perfect exposure and curvature. The marks are almost blisters, and this helps keep the pain and discomfort for a couple of days, thus highlighting the educational and expiatory effect, but then everything goes back to normal. This is why the hazel rod allows one to somminsit well over 20 strokes without danger and giving genuine pain to the wife. This our experience, the use is much less frequent than with the hand strap because it must be reserved for major faults. It is an experience I suggest to all those who do not want to get to the barrel but feel the need for a very intense chastisement superior to the strap.

    Translated with http://www.DeepL.com/Translator (free version)

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  9. Thanks for sharing this, Mark. I like your measure of success, that the most severe punishment was for something not repeated since.

    I think almost any woman would not have trouble obeying with a lesser implement being her worst case. It’s certainly not one I need. However, the mental image of it can be powerful, both for the wife to fear and for the husband to be confident in his ability to address any discipline issue. I also assume the cane is more likely to be used by English and others who grew up familiar it as an American does with a paddle.

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  10. So, if one shops around, there are lots of different things online called “canes.” I’ve seen plastic canes, rattan canes, bamboo, metal. What kind of cane did the author have in mind when he wrote this? How do you find a quality cane when shopping for one, what should one look for? What should one avoid? What would be the difference between a cane and a switch? Or a wooden dowel from the hardware store? What diameter is usually appropriate for a cane?
    Thank you for your insight.


    1. Hello Practical, Thanks for your questions. I will leave it to the author to respond to his intentions regarding which kind of cane he is explaining. There is indeed some amount of variety, and a thinner cane can be used a bit more strongly than the heavy variety. The author may or may not be able to tell you about other instruments you mention.


    2. I have a rattan cane that is used for severe infractions. You can find them online reasonably inexpensive. They are what we’re used on me in school and trust me, extremely painful. After a proper caning, your wife won’t be able to sit comfortably for a while. If you have troubles finding a cane, feel free to email me at mberman80@outlook.com. Best of luck.

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      1. Hello Mr. Mark, I emailed, but was wondering if you could suggest a cane. I have a high pain tolerance and feel the cane would be the best option for my husband and I, as I don’t want him to work harder, but desire the right correction. Thank you for any and all suggestions you may have.


  11. I too use the cane for severe offenses that my wife has committed. I have gone well over 20 strokes. But recently decided as Mark said to not go over 20 strokes. I do have experience using it. You must always be self-controlled and methodical in its useage. It can cause major damage if you use it nonchalantly and without aiming correctly and you want to avoid that at all costs. You also MUST control your strength when applying it. You would NEVER use the strength that you do when using a paddle or strap. You want to avoid the thighs because the padding is much thinner there and you can hurt muscles, etc. It is an instrument you must always use with upmost care and concern for your wife’s safety. You want to teach your wife a lesson, not hurt her beyond repair. It’s usage also requires aftercare, so the skin is kept from chaffing.

    My wife would describe it as a searing, burning pain that intensifies, it feels as if her bottom was set aflame. She usually has the reminder of her lesson for well over a week. For a serious infraction that is exactly what I want her to feel so that she doesn’t forget this lesson any time soon. And also that she learn the lesson that required it’s usage.

    I use it for serious repeated behaviors that she has been corrected before for with a paddle or strap for committing. Such as continuing a friendship that wasn’t healthy for her. Usually I will spank her 3 times for prior offenses of the same offense before reaching for the cane.

    She is well aware of this and knows if she continues down a road she shouldn’t I will use it on her. For the obvious reasons after she receives it her behavior on most issues is changed immediately and permanently. There is only one issue that I have had to use it on her several times for because she continued the behavior. Just recently she has learned that because she continued that one behavior I in turn can take the heat up of the strokes. She assured me this time has gotten through to her.

    Again, it certainly changes a wife’s bad behavior immediately, but it can also injure her beyond repair as it would leave her skin permanently damaged. If you love and care about your wife you would never use the cane on anything that wasn’t a serious offense. You would also always want self-control and to always examine her bottom as you apply the strokes.

    It is an instrument that my wife fears, but she always knows that I will handle it and her with utmost care and love when I need to administer it to her. As she has told me recently, the pain goes to the brain like no other instrument.

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    1. That’s all very good advice. Thank you. The cane can make a wife regret bad behavior like no other instrument, but must used carefully and in moderation. It is a punishment to be avoided. Even a warning of getting the cane can change a wife’s attitude. I am happy you have seen its rewards.


    2. Hey R Todd, yes isn’t the cane a remarkable disciplinary tool? The most I give are 20-21 strokes, usually on sets of 7. I split each set with cornertime. My wife may not rub her searing behind when she is ordered to stand in the corner. At the end of her caning, she must spend a minimum of an hour with her nose in the corner, touching the wall and on display. She begs me to let her rub, but after the threat of another seven strokes, she quiets down and reflects in the corner. Glad the cane is useful for you.

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      1. Yes Mark it definitely is remarkable in how it changes behavior immediately. I too make my wife stand in the corner after and not rub her bottom. My wife softly cries when I administer it, she has learned self-control in this area and doesn’t give me any problems. She does cry out in a pillow when she feels the strokes. She definitely fears it and just the threat of using it makes her change. I use to administer 30 strokes but realized it was way too many for her small frame. I learned to take the heat up of the 20 strokes if she continues a serious offense. I had to use it recently on one behavior that continues, I am hoping taking the heat up did the trick. It gives me no pleasure in having to administer it to her, but some serious offenses definitely require its usage.

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