Let me introduce another guest article by Mark, who is writing today about use of the cane in discipline. As with other guest articles, I’ve asked him to write on subjects I do not have hands-on experience with. I have never used the cane for discipline and he has. By all accounts of spanked wives, the cane is the harshest of instruments commonly used. It is fierce, its pain lasting, and its fleshy damage heavier than others. I don’t use it personally by the view that it borders closely on danger, but I do endorse its use if you can handle it properly. I hope you find this article helpful in understanding when and how to use the cane. Your wife will be penitent when she faces it.
I believe every husband should have an implement that he reserve for the most extreme situations; in my house that implement is the cane. I have only used the cane maybe 5 or 6 times over several years and each time it was for a different behavior. I can assure you my wife has never repeated something she has been caned for.
To be fair to my wife, I will only share one example to demonstrate the severity of her offense. About three years ago, there was a case where a couple had died because of carbon monoxide poisoning. It was very tragic and I asked my wife to purchase a new detector. I reminded her a few times and she said she would. Still not seeing a new one, she said she had purchased one and changed it already. She knew I was annoyed and she was trying to avoid a spanking for negligence. Instead when I found out she had lied, she earned two spankings; one for negligence and one for dishonesty. I decided to punish for the two together with a very hard spanking and caning.
A caning session begins very similarly to any spanking. Once my wife admitted to lying, I ordered her to strip and stand in the corner. I was quite angry and left her in the corner for quite a while. Once I had cooled down, I put her over my knee and gave her a hard hand spanking until she was very pink. At this point in a session, I usually switch to a paddle or more commonly a nice leather strap to finish the job. Instead I positioned her the same way I would strap her and gave her 6 strokes of the cane. She was pretty quiet other than sobbing.
In between strokes, I lectured her and made her answer several questions. After the sixth stroke, I sent her back to the corner. Because the cane is so painful, I use cornertime generously with it. It gives her time to reflect, feel shame and prepare for the next set of strokes. I repeatedly gave her two more sets of 6 strokes with 15 minutes of cornertime between each. This is DEFINITELY the maximum amount of strokes I would give, no more than 20. My wife was extremely sore for a solid day after this punishment.
When I was 12, my family moved to the UK for almost two years and I attended a boys school which was very strict. I think I was caned at least a half dozen times for various reasons and I can assure you it was an extremely unpleasant experience. Having said that, if your wife commits an offense that you feel is very inappropriate, the cane will teach her a very memorable lesson.
Think to yourself, did anyone ever show you how to spank with your hand, paddle or even strap? Of course not. I pretty much learned how to apply the cane from experience. The cane makes an unforgettable sound on the air before it strikes. I would definitely start slow and then see what effect it has. My wife has always been spanked pretty hard with my hand before her caning, so I make the first few strokes relatively light and increase in intensity gradually. The final six strokes are very hard and she will remember the lesson you are trying to teach. After the last session, I strongly recommend making her stand in the corner and display her behind to you. She has sinned greatly and has paid for these sins and must show you what has happened to her very sore, red behind. Expect many tears at this point for quite a while. She will need time to process everything and to calm down. The final cornertime is extremely important and should be fairly lengthy in time to accomplish all goals. At the conclusion, you may request an act of sexual submission.
Again, I cannot caution you enough with the use of the cane. Use it sparingly and effectively and you have taught your wife a lesson. My wife has never repeated a behavior that I have caned her for and it’s been almost a year since her last caning. I keep the cane hanging in our bedroom closet next to the umbrellas. My wife sees it almost every day and I’m sure would love to sell it at a garage sale.
Some husbands will try to provide comfort after a caning by applying lotion to their wife’s behind, which is completely an individual decision. I allow my wife to experience the burning feeling throughout her final cornertime where she has her hands on her head to prevent rubbing. Before bed, I will apply lotion and by then she has had plenty of time to experience the results of her actions.
For obvious reasons, a caning cannot be given over the knee. Personally, I have administered it two different ways and both were very effective. I have had my wife bent over the edge of the couch with her behind slightly protruding. I’ve also had her hold on to the chair I sit on when she’s been over my knee. Both positions allow you full view of her behind and allow to strike exactly where you want the cane to land. With just about any other spanking, I usually will strike the upper part of my wife’s thighs to make the spanking more painful and meaningful. whether I’m using a paddle, belt, hand or a strap. I strongly do not recommend this for a caning. Work solely on striking your wife’s behind. For safety reasons you don’t want to venture beyond that. She will be a nice shade of red and well marked with stripes, just from working on her behind.
The beauty of the cane is it requires very little effort from us. It’s quite light and even using only a quarter to half of a normal swat you will be providing your wife with a lesson to remembered. My wife absolutely despised the cane and makes quite a bit of noise during her caning. Uncontrollable sobbing and begging always occur, but don’t let them interfere with the correction. She has earned the caning and must learn from it. The same way you follow through with a paddling or strapping you must with the caning of your wife. Aim at the behind only, administer sharp, but light strokes and you’ll be doing her a favor. Reserve it for the most serious offenses and remind your wife of its availability at any time. Some husbands require the wife to count strokes, I don’t. I do recommend a longer cornertime after a caning, she will need the time to reflect and regain composure. Because of the seriousness of her offense, she needs to display her behind to you to feel remorse and shame. This cornertime is intense and you must supervise your wife very closely to ensure she benefits from it.
In our house a hand spanking is a spanking given for breaking a rule and from there it progresses depending on the severity. My favorite implement is the definitely the strap, which is what I use the most. See what works best for you and what teaches your wife the most successfully. Just remember, make it a spanking she won’t want again!